Daily Beam Blog

To save your marriage you have to first get back to the point where things went wrong and remember how things were. When you can get back to that place you can have a realistic contrast of then and now. You don’t have to reach this together at first. It is actually important that you reach it alone and figure out how you contributed to the problem. When you ask yourself How can I save my marriage, ask yourself if your willing to do what it takes to save yourself first to the point where you will stop externalizing blame and start taking responsibility for part of it. When you take responsibility the other person will want to take responsibility for their part. One thing that escalates fights is feeling like the other person is blaming you and not taking any of the responsibility themselves.